Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what

What is it like to raise a child who’s different from you in some fundamental way (like a prodigy, or a differently abled kid, or a criminal)? In this quietl…

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25 thoughts on “Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what

  1. We humans are capable of such sublime powerful love with the potential for
    limitless growth, enough to engulf and conquer even the worst of human
    tragedy and suffering and while doing so heal and transform all those who
    are blessed enough to be in its path, rescuing them from the self they were
    and leaving new self transcendent beings in its wake.

    (c) N. Eldon Tanner II (excerpt from book manuscript in progress. Jun. 7,

    This video has left me changed. It brought me, albeit peripherally, as
    perhaps it will you, into the path of the transforming love experienced by
    the people who’s stories he shared, including his own.
    -Dad, Grandpa, Uncle Eld, Eld.

  2. As a parent; this was worth the watch of every second. Despite other
    problems in my life-I was blessed with 2 happy & healthy sons!!!

  3. ”The fact that my favourite colour is now blue, and I’m still gay is
    evidence of both my mother’s influence and limits…” hahaha

  4. The more I watch this – the more I realize The Times is the most ridiculous
    magazine, who just follows the trend of the government/culture of hate to
    impress those with the most money.

  5. His book was a sensational read; his talk was equally absorbing, moving,
    illuminating, and utterly engrossing. Thank you!

  6. I love this Andrew Solomon speech. I have a son on earth and a son in
    heaven, and I agree that the love we feel for our children is like no other
    love we will ever feel. 

  7. “I don’t accept subtractive models of love”. Great quote, great talk.

  8. Apparenly, having a disorder is justification to deny someone their life.
    Is there any mother here who can imagine walking up to their son or
    daughter who has Down Syndrome and looking at them and saying without
    guilt, “If we had better blood tests to determine if you had Down
    Syndrome we’d have killed you in the womb.” ?

  9. I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand I think its great that people
    find a way to meet with people like them and become part of a community
    that supports them.

    On the other hand, I don’t think this means we shouldn’t try to find a cure
    for autism. Just because people find community in coping with painful
    situations doesn’t make that condition “alright.” By that logic we should
    have preserved the communities of leper colonies, slaves, and the homeless
    in perpetuity because to remove them would be a loss of “culture.”

    I think we should approach it from the other side – make the “mainstream,”
    or at least its many permutations, more inviting and supportive of people,
    less individualistic, and learn from these smaller communities how to live
    with one another.